Washington State boasts miles of coastline, much of it
decorated with tangles of driftwood. One of my favorite memories from childhood
days at the beach is seeing how far along the beach I could walk, balancing
only on driftwood, without my feet touching sand.
In the 7 weeks since we left “home” in Thailand, we’ve slept
in 8 beds. This is just the beginning of what will be a year of transition. While
many would find a year like this unsettling (and I have – already – felt that
unsettledness), I am finding it also an expedition of discovery, learning how
to make this (current) place, my place; knowing that I must embrace the gifts
today offers, not cling to the past, nor long for the future, but… focus on and
appreciate today.
As we step from one home to another to another throughout
this year of transition, there are some lessons to be learned from walking
driftwood, as I did recently during some days near Ebey’s Landing, on Whidbey
Island.
Sometimes a log seems very narrow and I wonder, “Can I
really walk the narrowness of this place, this piece of driftwood?” Arms
naturally swing wide to assist in the driftwood dance, inching one
foot forward, then another.
On the narrow edge of transition, we need to exercise other
parts of ourselves in new ways in order to gain our balance. We employ some less used parts of our
bodies, but also our brains, souls, and spirits, which assist us in gaining balance
and learning the way forward. We use some “soul muscles” we may not have used in
quite some time, or… perhaps, ever! Some of this begins to feel quite natural, but… at
the close of most days, there will be an ache that reminds us of the efforts of
the day.
It’s pretty natural to look ahead, in transition… and,
certainly, looking ahead is necessary when walking driftwood. There are some
logs that hold promise, but which are simply too short; they don’t take us the
length of where we want to go. There are others that have length, but maybe don’t have stability, so
there is some trial and error to find our best path through the driftwood, our
best path through transition.
There’s a lot of testing involved when walking driftwood.
Sometimes you step on a log and you think it will fully support your weight and
it doesn’t. Regaining balance (or landing softly and getting up to walk again)
must be done over and over and over. You learn a way of walking that suits the driftwood – putting
a foot in place, but delicately; not putting your full weight forward, but
testing it to see if the next log will hold your weight. Being ready for the
expected, but unexpected, shift of log beneath you can be exhilarating at
first, but as muscles stretch and tense, you become aware of a creeping
fatigue, as you are constantly on alert. No two steps are the same in walking driftwood, nor in walking
transition.
Often, straddling a couple of logs is necessary to find
support between boards, between here and there. Transition is also about
straddling, one foot in each of two places, gaining balance, then shifting weight
from one place to another.
Sometimes, the best option is not our ideal. There’s such a
jumble of small logs that you can’t really find your purchase, can’t really
find your balance. Toes slip, bodies tip, arms flip, and we find ourselves on
the ground, breathless, wondering how we got there. Arising, brushing sand from
our bums, we become aware of scrapes and bruises, with no memory of how they
came to be. Welcome to transition, where there is also quite a bit of bum
brushing, nursing our wounds, getting up and putting ourselves back together to
march onward.
Every once in awhile there’s some retreating, retracing of your
steps in order to go a different way.
You feel defeated and discouraged, thinking that forward movement is
hindered. Did the logs get the best of you? Still, the backward walk is a
necessary endeavor in the forward movement, as a different log holds more
promise to move you in the direction you want to go.
We can be so focused on navigating the maze of driftwood, that we don’t notice the beauty of the driftwood along the way, the
swirls of wood, the shades of tan, brown and gray. Fragile flowers grow between
the boards and are easily missed, if we don’t occasionally pause to sit, rest
and appreciate this place, this space. We’ll miss the beauty springing up and growing
in between the logs; we’ll miss the beauty springing up in us, in between the
there and here, in between our then and not yet.
There’s a delight and discovery in walking driftwood, but
also a dull pain, a longing for rest. One finds that the place of rest on
driftwood is a short-lived relief; pausing suits, lingering doesn’t. As the
board becomes harder and harder beneath us, we are prompted to get up and walk,
once again, because remaining does not provide true rest. True rest will only come
at evening, at home in one’s own bed. So, too, with transition… there are momentary pauses, small moments of rest along the way, but… we are all searching for, longing for, anticipating an arrival home.
The awareness that all of life is transition knocks me off
my board at the moment and gives me pause. As I sit and ponder, I realize that my experience of being
between here and there… is everyman’s experience. We are all between here and
there. Between this country and that. Between this job and that. Between this
grade and that. Between college and career. Between the single life and married
life. Between raising families and empty nest. Between work and
retirement. We live our lives in
between places, spaces, walking from one place to the next, moving forward as
if on a delicate driftwood dance.
Summer is vacation season. Vacations offer times of
discovery, opportunities to see the world from new vantage points. But the very
definition of vacation means there is an end, a home awaiting after the
exploration ends.
This year of transition is not a vacation for us, although it is certainly
an opportunity to experience new vistas, to gain new perspectives on this
lovely wide world in which we live. There is not a home (yet) awaiting us, but…
there is a home sought. We have plans in place to “land” at the end of our
driftwood dance, to find and make a home in a new neck of the woods. Yet, we are more aware than ever that
we are temporary citizens of this current space, that country up ahead, this
planet. Our ultimate home is elsewhere. Yet still, we long for “home,” for a
place to “call our own.” It’s up ahead somewhere… another home where we’ll find
shelter and so much more. We will
belong, find ourselves in relationship with those we love and long for, find beauty
in daily rhythms, delight in walking familiar paths.
But for today? We’re dancing driftwood, finding our balance
between the logs, experiencing the joy – and ache – of daily discovery, and…
brushing our bums off a bit from time to time!